When you get married many couples believe that what they have now will last for the rest of their lives and they will live happily ever after; and all they need is love. They get caught up in the moment and excitement of getting hitched!
Guess what? A great percentage of marriages will have major problems. There will be misunderstandings and difficulties throughout the years. One will annoy the other with habits they have or pick up throughout the years. There could be money problems and other such issues.
People change and things you don’t even consider at the time arise. There’s a very good chance it won’t be all roses.
The fact is you can love with everything you got… You can romance each other madly. But your marriage vows stretch way beyond simply the passion and heart…
Would you believe it if I told you that in the past 20 years the number of people that will be married 3 times or more has increased dramatically. From that data I’ve seen, it’s something in the neighborhood of 50% of all the population in the United States alone!
You might even heard that almost half of all marriages today end in divorce. It’s scary. I reflect on this a lot… I think the reasons are many, but there are some things that influence this problem more then others.
Here’s one of the essential things that every marriage needs to last long term. Something that is required in order for the couple’s vows to remain fulfilled for the rest of their lives.
This one virtue that every married couple MUST learn; Devotion to Each Other!
If you want to tear apart a marriage, keep secrets from each other… or don’t think about your partner first.
Being devoted in a marriage is the essential ingredient. A married couple draws on it and protects each other and doesn’t betray the other. A devoted wife or devoted husband care so deeply that they can’t.
There should be a singular focus in the marriage. The goal and priority of the husband and wife must be the happiness, gratification, and the providing of pleasure to the other…
There are going to many people in each others lives. You might have different friends and acquaintances in each others careers and work places. But the priority must be the one you married always! Do nothing to damage this. Be loyal to each other.
Look to each others needs. Take care of each other when you are sick or injured physically or mentally. Support each other and carry each other through tough times.
The priority needs to be so strong that it’s larger then your relationships with your family, friends and even with the people at that wonderful place called your job.
So this is a MAJOR part of a married couples life; this is the top priority for anyone that wants to be with one person for the rest of their lives; one slip up can damage and destroy a marriage… don’t be part of that 50% that fails. It’s not worth it. Be devoted!
